What I hear all too often as a coach, is people comparing their business to others. They see someone else being successful and start to copy what they are doing, hoping that it will bring them the same level of success. There is a quote that says “Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy” and boy I know that I too spent many years comparing myself to others. But what I have learned in my own journey is that your greatest level of success comes when you do YOU. Of course, success leaves clues, but clues are different than allowing yourself to become a second-rate version of someone else’s success. In order to build your business true and authentic to who you are here are 3 steps to assure that you Stay in your Own Lane;
1.Go All the Way Back! Think about who you were when you were little. I remember watching a little boy play in the park and remembering how free I felt when I was a little. How back then, I really did not focus on what other people thought about me, until something happened to me that made me shift my ability to believe in me. Doesn’t that happen to us all along the way. Sooner or later someone says something or does something that makes your second guess yourself. What I am inviting you to do is to go back to a time in your life before you were worried about being judged. Before you started to buy into what society had to say or people thought about you. Once you do this, I want to you then…
2.Notice What You are Thinking. Are your thoughts from your past affecting your success? I was reading an article years ago that said that we have over 600,000 thoughts in a day and over 50% of those are preprogramed for stinking thinking. So when you understand that it’s like every time I try to grow my business, I have very few examples of how to do that and then I have a brain wave that is only programmed to tell me “you can’t do it”, “you can’t make it happen”. So then what do I do? On top of that studies tell us that the average person only uses 11% of their brain. Think about how much more we all could be tapping into. Becoming more aware of the quality of your thoughts, letting go of the old beliefs, and becoming more present can help in revealing your truest self. We are all so much more than those old negative thinking patterns would ever allow us to believe.
Why do this? when I stop and notice if what is hindering my dreams or ideas is based on what happened to me in my past, I can choose to stay stuck or to fight. To fight for my freedom to be ME without limits, without perception and without judgment. Only then can I truly do # 3
3.Find Your FLOW. I was on a call with my coach at the end of last year and she pointed out that there is a different between hustle and flow. Hustle is the work we do to try and keep up with the Jones’ (dare I say…LOL) when we are looking to compete with others and stay in the race. However, when you are in your own FLOW you are in competition with NO ONE. You no longer live hungry for people’s perceptions. Making their happiness more important than your own.
Moving from living in the spirit of comparison to learning to live in your own lane it allows you to follow you Inner GPS (your God Placement System) that I believe whispers to our soul to give us guidance along the way. I will tell you from my own personal experience: When you start following the little nudges and urges that you get from your GPS, you begin to create a lane ALL your own. You tap into your own greatness and you begin to find the level of success that is YOURS for the taking.
The privilege of life is being who you are – Joseph Campbell
Yes, the privilege in life really IS in being WHO YOU ARE! As we are a few months away from yet another new year I have one question for you, in what ways can you go into 2018 tapping more into your own personal power, into your own gifts and talents? In what ways can you choose to DO you without apology? It’s time to open up and allow others to see ALL of the brilliance that comes when you carve out your OWN LANE!
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